We Are All a Pain
Everyone is annoying to someone at some point. This is especially true for co-workers.
If you think you are the exception to the rule, you probably are not. You are bound to not be liked by someone at work given the multitude of personalities and the poor hiring practices that are in use in the worksplace.
Some jobs require you to work well completely alone with cathedral quietness. I need to concentrate. I really do not care what you had for lunch, where you went last weekend, and how you are getting along with your significant other. If you were a friend, then I would be interested. But again, not while I am at work.
Be Glad I Am Not in HR
Jim Collins’ book, Good to Great, resonated with me because I have worked with so many people who really needed to be given the opportunity to investigate other employment. It’s a good thing I am not in the position to fire people. I expect a lot from co-workers. I expect them to have courage. I expect them to be forthright. I expect them to accept responsibility for themselves. I expect them to play the rules of the game of the job they have agreed to occupy. I do not belong in a job that measures outcomes related to socializing, chatting, or visiting. Diversity and inclusion would allow me to be valued, too.
Just Stop It
People getting their nose out of joint at a slight that they created out of their own head and then talking to everyone except you for several days is incredibly immature. Stop the drama.
Your duplicitous behavior is apparent. You are not trusted.
Regardless of what you think, many of us are not quite so dim-witted to not notice.
Big ego compensates for low self assurance.
We All Can Do Better
Life can be challenging. Adulting, exceptionally so.
Grow up. Own your behavior and your emotions. Play by the rules of the game in which you have chosen to participate.
Leave me to my work and visit with someone who will appreciate and welcome it.
Good to Great. Collins, Jim. HarperBusiness; 1st edition (October 16, 2001).
The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book). Ruiz, Don Miguel. Amber-Allen Publishing, Incorporated (July 10, 2018).